The first step in protecting yourself from toxic people is learning how to identify them. While it's not always easy to recognize toxic behavior, there are some common signs and patterns that can help you determine whether someone is a positive or negative influence in your life.

1. They are always negative: Toxic people tend to have a negative outlook on life, and may be critical or judgmental of others. They may also complain frequently or focus on the negative aspects of a situation.

2. They are emotionally manipulative: Toxic people may use guilt, shame, or other tactics to control or manipulate others. They may also play the victim or use emotional blackmail to get what they want.

3. They lack empathy: Toxic people often have little regard for the feelings or well-being of others. They may be insensitive, dismissive, or even cruel towards those around them.

4. They are controlling: Toxic people may try to control others through micromanaging, gaslighting, or other tactics. They may also be possessive or jealous of others' relationships or successes.

5. They are unpredictable: Toxic people may be prone to sudden mood swings or outbursts, making it difficult to know how to interact with them.

6. They are dishonest: Toxic people may lie, deceive, or manipulate in order to get what they want. They may also gossip or spread rumors about others.

7. They lack boundaries: Toxic people may ignore or disrespect the boundaries of others, and may also have poor personal boundaries themselves.

8. They drain your energy: Toxic people can leave you feeling drained, exhausted, or emotionally depleted after spending time with them.

If you recognize any of these patterns in someone in your life, it may be a sign that they are toxic and it's time to set boundaries or move on from the relationship.

It's important to remember, however, that toxic behavior is not always obvious or easy to identify. Sometimes, toxic people may hide their negative behavior behind a facade of charm or charisma, making it difficult to recognize their true nature. In these cases, it's important to trust your instincts and pay attention to how you feel around the person.

In the next chapter, we'll explore strategies for setting boundaries with toxic people, so that you can protect your energy and create a healthier, more positive environment.